I received an email where the writer said his father’s words & actions, taught him that children are to be ridiculed, abused, and tormented; that to love or trust anyone was to fall for an illusion; that other human beings were to be used sexually before they could use you. That, he taught him, was the only real truth. He was taught that to trust a woman was to be a fool, that having feelings other than anger are incompatible with being a real man.
He wrote that his mother taught him, by her example, to manipulate and use guilt as a tool to use and abuse others and that if he didn't talk about what was done to him then it wasn't that bad. He learned that what he did to others sexually and emotionally didn't really matter. She taught him to be fake... false and guarded around others.
He went on to tell me that once when he was sick with a fever, his mother left him home alone for three days so she could spend time with her boyfriend. This taught him that he could never expect anyone to be there for him when he needed them. So, he learned to be alone and to share his problems with no one.
Amazingly, he has been "Made Free"!
He forgives his father for the lies that he imparted on him as well as the emotional and sexual abuse that he inflicted on him. He doesn't hate his father; he Loves him. He has even promised his father that he will no longer walk in the lies, but hold tight to the Truth and Love that goes deeper in him than any falsehood that he had accepted earlier in life; The Truth of YESHUA, JESUS The CHRIST and The FATHER'S Love for him!
He also forgives his mother for leaving him, teaching him how to manipulate, for teaching him to maintain self-pity as a mind-set, teaching him to wear masks, to distrust, to hide his true feelings (even in his relationships). He doesn't hate his mother; he Loves her. He has even promised her that he will no longer live in her lies, but that he will walk in the Love and new life that has been given him through YESHUA, JESUS The CHRIST, our LORD, and SAVIOR.
As you may gather, his early life was based on lies, but thank GOD Almighty that HE has replaced those lies with Truth and has been transformed from a user and abuser to one who can truly Forgive, Love and Care! Thank YOU, FATHER, for YOUR Amazing Grace, Mercy, Love and Truth that comes with this new life that has been given to this young man.
Dear FATHER, Thank YOU for setting us free from the lies that others believed and instilled in us! Thank YOU for YOUR Word and for brethren who Love us and teach us YOUR Way. Thank YOU for YOUR Infinite Grace, for robing YOURSELF in flesh, coming to this world and being the Ultimate Sacrifice, for the cleansing Blood of YOUR Son, YESHUA, JESUS The CHRIST, and for the ministry of YOUR HOLY SPIRIT, Who is making The Truth real in our lives. We Praise YOU, Glorify YOU and Pray to YOU, in The Mighty Name of YESHUA, JESUS The CHRIST. Amen.
Reading Psalm 10:1-18...