Child: From You!!
So this afternoon I was standing in line at the store and in front of me was a young father and his 5 year old son. The young boy was eyeing the dinosaur action figures and dad told him to grab one and let's go.
Then the dad said to the boy, "play with it til we get home but then we have to wrap it and put it under the tree because we can't let mommy know I bought it for you".
He told his son to not only keep something from his mother but to flat out lie and it was okay.
It was no problem for that man to tell his 5 year old son not to let mommy know he bought him the toy, and that he could play with it now but then it has to get wrapped "so mommy thinks it was just a gift someone left for you". Really?!?!?!?! Are you serious!!!
In a few more years when that young boy lies about something to daddy, and is caught red handed, what will dad say? Dad will get mad and ask him where he learned to lie like that. The boy will be able to truthfully tell him, "from you dad"!
There is nothing alright with telling a child that it is okay to be deceitful, to lie or hide anything from anyone but especially from his, or her, parents!! When a parent pits a child up against the other parent like this it is a very dangerous line that will eventually get blurred when he begins to lie about everything to everyone!
But don't we do the same when we lie to a child and tell them that "Santa" brought them a gift? Or that he even exists?!!? I am not going to get into the traditions or history of Christmas, santa or the other stuff but what I am going to say is this..... when you tell your child a lie, with good or bad intentions, it is still a lie and you are still a liar.
When your child then lies to you, not that it is okay because any lie is wrong, then maybe you are the failed example you were supposed to be. Just sayin....... all of this comes from hearing that one father tell his son to deceive and lie to his own mother, and all in the name of Christmas and love. Hmph!! Bah Humbug to that!
Remember, if you tell your child there is a "tooth fairy" then you are a liar and a foul example of what that child deserves.
If you tell your child there is a santa, an easter bunny, great pumpkin or any of the other fictional depraved characters that the world worships, then you are a liar and a foul representation of a parent.
Just sayin....... I know I know, I don't have any children. That doesn't change the fact that if you lie then you are a liar and if GOD Almighty blesses you with a child that you are supposed to be a good, pleasing and acceptable example to that child!